Anonymous said: Sorry I didn't mean that ask to be offensive or anything, I literally don't know much at all about any of the actors private lives beyond the odd thing I've learnt from a gifset on tumblr or a tweet, I've never actively searched information (I'm lazy lol). So I didn't actually know she was a "dr" (as in medical or PhD?) I was just making a nice comment based on her looks because that's literally all I know about her, not to purposely disregard her intelligence (or other attributes) in any way :)
I don’t know which of the comments you left, but I’m not offended by any of them. She is pretty, she is tall, and she is too curvy to meet Hollywood standards of what attractive women should look like. Why would I be offended by you pointing out facts?
Quick primer on Vicki Vantoch: She has a PhD, and I’m not very knowledgeable about the field, but she seems to have had a very successful career; her undergraduate degree was from UChicago (like Misha), and her PhD was from USC, and those are both very prestigious universities; she’s written two books and numerous articles, she’s open about being bisexual and polyamorous, and she writes mostly about the history of gender and sexuality. Her writing is hilarious and very blunt, but in person she’s pretty shy; I’ve never seen her do any red carpet events with Misha and though she sometimes goes to conventions with him, he’s never pulled her out on stage (though he has invited other friends and family up there).
I’ve been doing this for a while, and I get comments like that a lot about her. Occasionally, someone will say something actually offensive about her (such as in this really old thread from fanpop), but for the most part, I think people like it when an actor is married to a non-actor. I guess it’s intriguing! And if you just see a picture of her, of course your impressions are going to be formed entirely by her looks!
But imagine it from the other point of view. For years, in fact, Vicki’s career was pretty successful while Misha was struggling with his - and that’s not so weird, acting is tough to break in to. But for Vicki’s coworkers who didn’t know that they met in high school before Misha even knew that he wanted to be an actor, that might seem kind of strange to them. Maybe they would judge Misha by his looks as well. Maybe they would jump to the conclusion that he was unintelligent, just an empty-headed actor guy who was always working out. Maybe they thought he was just a stupid, annoying dude and they couldn’t figure out what Vicki saw in him.
In an alternate universe where academics are considered more important than actors, maybe there’s a message board where one fan is saying, “How could she marry that guy? He doesn’t even have an advanced degree!” And another one says, “Have you seen his twitter? He can’t even spell!” And somebody else is defending him, saying, “Yes, he’s just an actor, and yes, he only has a BA, but if you talked to him, you’d find out that he’s actually pretty smart! Besides, she likes him, they’re happy, so what’s the problem? If we’re really Vicki’s fans, we should be supporting her choices!”